Dating two men quotes
However, if you confuse this with imagining that you’re still in love with your ex, it’s a short step to calling for a chat and, after a couple of glasses of wine, reigniting the relationship – even if by now you’re officially involved with someone else.We’re also more interested in our own emotions than ever before and place greater emphasis on ‘going with our instincts’ or ‘trusting our feelings’.They agreed to end it when they returned home, because they both loved their partners.However, they continued to have lunch together, and her colleague finally confessed that he loved her but wouldn’t do anything about it because he just wanted her to be happy and didn’t want to wreck her marriage.Up to that point, he had been so self-contained and undemonstrative that she genuinely thought he wouldn’t care.However, after a long conversation, they came to me to work on their relationship.
Studies by psychologist Arthur Aron of the Stony Brook University in New York suggest that stress hormones distort our romantic perceptions, and that when people embark on an affair they mistake the physical cues of fear and excitement for the sensations of falling in love.
I’ve noticed a strange phenomenon recently in my marriage counselling rooms: increasing numbers of people claiming to be in love with two people at once.
Sometimes it’s an unappreciated wife and mother who has started an affair with a sympathetic guy at the office.
Women are more likely than men to pump up these feelings and over-analyse them until the boundary between lust and love collapses.
The final ingredient in this heady mixture is the divorce boom of the 1970s and 80s, which has turned into a fear-of-intimacy epidemic in the 21st century.